I'm already in my 20s, so let me talk about adult stuff.
My parents are already talking about marriage stuff with me, how's the wedding gonna be like,
I am reminded to save up for the wedding days, really things are getting more serious these days.
And my parents can be very bipolar.
One time, they're really being very serious in planning my wedding, and at other time,
they're just asking me to stop daydreaming, get my head straight on my degree.
Lol.
I get it, both are my future, but wedding is more like an uncertain things, cause you'll never know who's you're gonna end up with (but I've clearly prayed days and nights to end up with someone I love lol).
But okay, put the degree aside for five minutes.
Let's talk about marriage.
Personally I'm physically, mentally and emotionally unprepared for this big phase of life,
because 1. that's not on my top priority list
2. I'm super scared of my in laws
In general, I feel like most girls are facing these problems,
how to get along with your in-laws.
I've googled stuff, I've asked so many opinions but there's no one formula on how to deal with these.
As an engineering student (not so proud about it lol),
I always need formulas, if the formulas work universally,
you don't have to derive anything to get to the formula, that'd be A-MAZING!
But in-laws... Nope you gotta figure out yourself.
I guess I should list down things that I feel my in-laws would hate about me....
1. I have trouble sleeping at night..........which it makes me harder to wake up.......in the morning....
Okay my mom always feels like this attitude of mine will put me into trouble when I get married,
but to be honest, I try my best to sleep early.
I will go to bed at 12 max everyday, but I can start sleeping at 2am.....
and I have morning class everyday, so I have to wake up at 730am.....
but I always wake up at 800am, get ready in 15 minutes, eat no breakfast, run to class.
In the weekend, if only I have urgent meeting, I will wake up early, but if not, I will pass 9am.
That's really bad, according to my mom!
Because when you're married, you have to do the chores, make breakfast for la faimilia and especially when you have that weekend sleepover at your parents or in-laws' place,
you're screwed.
2. I don't cook well....
Let's admit it. I love cooking, you give me any recipe, I can try cooking it, but it's the not the best in town! Especially I only focus on 'what to do' in the recipe, and always ignore the ingredient measurements. I will make sure the taste is good enough for me to eat, but my taste is very subjective and maybe it's not edible by my in-laws.
I had to cook laksa johor twice before letting Pan's family to taste it, because I'm that scared lol.
I don't have the super power, the touch to make things work. Lol.
What if, the very first breakfast I make for the in-laws, makes everyone sick....
H-E-L-P
3. I'm super clingy with my life partner lol
I know I will be a super clingy wife, for sure. I can see that coming, if my future is uncertain, I can bet you, this one has a probability of 1.
And I've heard that mother-in-law doesn't like his son's wife to be clingy...
In general, I'm not gonna be in a good spot, for sure, but the best I can do is to pray that my in-laws could accept that side of me haha
4. When I want to bond with someone, I tend to crack offensive joke about that person, in a very non-harsh way. I like to be sarcastic, but not in a mean way. I like to tease people, especially someone that I'm close to. What if I tease my in-laws, cause I thought we've bonded enough, and suddenly they take my joke so seriously and they hate me for their life... I swear I can be pretty harsh, I can help hating myself for that.
But some people's tolerance towards sarcasm is just different. How would I know?
When can I know whether I've crossed the line or not? Hmm
5. I want to live closer to my parents
What if the in-laws want us to live with them? But I want to live closer to my parents?
What if they think they don't enough love from me?
What if they think I'm being bias in this family relationship?
But I'm really the most manja one in the family,
and what if my husband is also the most manja one (I think he's)?
But I want what I want.....
6. I'm very demanding
I don't have high level of maintenance, I don't need my husband to spend money on my make up or facial treatment. I need him to pay for our future trips. I will be like,
"Honey, I dream about going to Vienna last night."
And the next day, he surprised me with two flight tickets to Vienna, and we'll be flying off this weekend.
I expect this thing from my future husband.
This attitude really turns off everyone, lol but I'm just being me hahaha!
I will probably spend his money on duckscarves too, that's another story.
So when the in-laws find out about this, they must be very mad and hate me lol.
But ofc I will make effort by asking my husband to buy 4 extra tickets for our parents.
However, I think for the next 10 dreams that I tell him, he will just smile or laugh about it.
No action taken, nothing haha!
7. My favouritism game is pretty strong
The way I treat people or things differs. If I like you, I will treat you well. If I don't, I will pretend you never exist. Okay, not really. But you get the point, right?
So, this isn't about me choosing one sister-in-law over another but I always always always want to be on top of my game.
I want to be the most favourite daughter-in-law.
I want my kids to be the most favourite grandchildren to my parents and my in-laws.
Do I sound greedy? Lol. I am.
My mom's marriage life is the ultimate goal.
Every year she will receive presents and cards from her in-laws,
"kepada menantu tersayang.."
translated to : to the most loveable daughter in law
I want to be that too....
As I'm writing this, I realize that I can be an awful person!
But also, I'm reminding myself to be tolerant in the future.
Okay Aliah, you have to know that you can't get everything that you want in life.
Things happen for the best reasons.
Life is short, so make everyone's life easier and simple.
Make everyone happy, so you can get the side effect of it.
Try your very best to behave, be the best version of you, and everything else will fall in to place.
Including, I will be the most favourite in-law :)
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